Reading this article was like taking a huge sigh of relief. Here is someone who UNDERSTANDS how motherhood has warped so much and how little consideration is given to mothers as human.
We're not supposed to do this alone! And yet--I'm struck by the ubiquity of the mom-influencer trend, and yes how truly awful some posts can leave one feeling...this does not replace the village of support...late night scrolling cannot be salve for the aching wounds of the lonliness of modern motherhood, no matter how affirming the posts.
We needs hands on backs, women holding women, physically sometimes. I'm five months pregant and have a lot of back pain. I'm lucky to have a friend who does prenatal body work, and she gave me a chiropractic massage the other day which, yes, resolved my back pain, but I was also amazed by how essential the ingredient of her physical touch was...to be held by her as she moved and massaged my body...it was so maternal, and what I needed as mother to fill my maternal cup.
I wish I could love this comment 100x! You are exactly right. We are not supposed to be in this alone. We are not supposed to suffer. We are not supposed to be in pain. As a mom whose fourth just turned 1 month yesterday and who has struggled with breastfeeding, I agree that we need more connection, love, and support. Thank you for sharing your post! I am clicking on it right now.
I have been thinking about you and your fourth--I'm 5.5 months and anxious about the fourth, even though I know I have all the skills and tools...I don't know that I have all the support. May we both find sturdy things to lean on in the coming months!
I loved this interview so much! I had her book on my nightstand for months because like most parents I could never find the time. When I finally got to it I devoured it. It was so inspirational and refreshing.
I am so glad you liked it. It was such a joy to do! What she says just makes so much sense. Now I just wish we could get all of the politicians to read it!
Love the point Jessica made about parenting and social media! Social media is truly solely what we CHOOSE to show the world, which makes it so unfair to compare ourselves to others in this way. And this is so important to remember. Thank you for this article! I'm sure so many mothers out there will find this so helpful!
Reading this article was like taking a huge sigh of relief. Here is someone who UNDERSTANDS how motherhood has warped so much and how little consideration is given to mothers as human.
I agree 150%! Her book and her interview are such a breath of fresh air!
We're not supposed to do this alone! And yet--I'm struck by the ubiquity of the mom-influencer trend, and yes how truly awful some posts can leave one feeling...this does not replace the village of support...late night scrolling cannot be salve for the aching wounds of the lonliness of modern motherhood, no matter how affirming the posts.
We needs hands on backs, women holding women, physically sometimes. I'm five months pregant and have a lot of back pain. I'm lucky to have a friend who does prenatal body work, and she gave me a chiropractic massage the other day which, yes, resolved my back pain, but I was also amazed by how essential the ingredient of her physical touch was...to be held by her as she moved and massaged my body...it was so maternal, and what I needed as mother to fill my maternal cup.
I just wrote a post about challenges the lactating mother faces...it's from my perspective as a yoga therapist who works with postpartum mommmas, but I think it speaks to the need to be held, supported, guided: https://open.substack.com/pub/juliaromano/p/nourishment-is-a-two-way-street?r=2b1l56&utm_campaign=post&utm_medium=web.
Grateful for communities like the one you're building, Cara, that make this venture a little less lonely.
I wish I could love this comment 100x! You are exactly right. We are not supposed to be in this alone. We are not supposed to suffer. We are not supposed to be in pain. As a mom whose fourth just turned 1 month yesterday and who has struggled with breastfeeding, I agree that we need more connection, love, and support. Thank you for sharing your post! I am clicking on it right now.
I have been thinking about you and your fourth--I'm 5.5 months and anxious about the fourth, even though I know I have all the skills and tools...I don't know that I have all the support. May we both find sturdy things to lean on in the coming months!
It is important to find the support both face to face, as well as virtually. Sending you good vibes and please reach out!
I loved this interview so much! I had her book on my nightstand for months because like most parents I could never find the time. When I finally got to it I devoured it. It was so inspirational and refreshing.
I feel the same way! It is such a refreshing read!
This was such a delightful interview, from start to finish!
I am so glad you liked it. It was such a joy to do! What she says just makes so much sense. Now I just wish we could get all of the politicians to read it!
Love the point Jessica made about parenting and social media! Social media is truly solely what we CHOOSE to show the world, which makes it so unfair to compare ourselves to others in this way. And this is so important to remember. Thank you for this article! I'm sure so many mothers out there will find this so helpful!
Fantastic conversation by two experts who put our motherhood issues into their proper perspectives. Thanks for the wisdom!