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Sri Juneja's avatar

Reading this article was like taking a huge sigh of relief. Here is someone who UNDERSTANDS how motherhood has warped so much and how little consideration is given to mothers as human.

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We're not supposed to do this alone! And yet--I'm struck by the ubiquity of the mom-influencer trend, and yes how truly awful some posts can leave one feeling...this does not replace the village of support...late night scrolling cannot be salve for the aching wounds of the lonliness of modern motherhood, no matter how affirming the posts.

We needs hands on backs, women holding women, physically sometimes. I'm five months pregant and have a lot of back pain. I'm lucky to have a friend who does prenatal body work, and she gave me a chiropractic massage the other day which, yes, resolved my back pain, but I was also amazed by how essential the ingredient of her physical touch was...to be held by her as she moved and massaged my body...it was so maternal, and what I needed as mother to fill my maternal cup.

I just wrote a post about challenges the lactating mother faces...it's from my perspective as a yoga therapist who works with postpartum mommmas, but I think it speaks to the need to be held, supported, guided: https://open.substack.com/pub/juliaromano/p/nourishment-is-a-two-way-street?r=2b1l56&utm_campaign=post&utm_medium=web.

Grateful for communities like the one you're building, Cara, that make this venture a little less lonely.

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