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Only good parents worry about being good parents; this is such a gem. I worry incessantly about becoming my father, so much so that it feels like I’m trying to overcompensate in fighting a narrative I created about him when I was young. I didn’t need him, and I turned out fine. Now, I'm trying to make sure my son will never have the same sentiment I did; he’s only 6 months old.

I am a good parent. Thank you for this reminder and the research helps that much more.

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You are an amazing parent! I am so glad the research and the reminder help to reinforce that!

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I receive that!

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Thank you for sharing this research. I have always wondered about this. I especially appreciate the 8 suggestions you have at the end of newsletter of things to do based on the research.

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This is a request I receive frequently so it was important for me to do. I am so glad the suggestions are helpful as it is always important to me to that the research a step further and to help people apply it to their own life.

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Love this post so much. I was raised by a cool mother and an authoritative father who used physical punishment and yelling frequently. I wanted to be more physically loving with my children (hugs and kisses and saying I love you) and eradicate the physical punishment. I was successful at that, but it was harder to eradicate the yelling. A good psychiatrist told me that sometimes it takes more than one generation to kill bad parenting techniques. And, in fact, my daughter is actively working to rid her home of yelling! She is a “good parent.”

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Thank you for sharing this and your parenting journey. I hope the newsletter was supportive. Please share with your daughter.

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