On a personal perspective my kids are all grown up and give me feedback about my parenting. They tell me who the favourite and least favourite are. They’re right!!! Hasn’t changed much either as adults. Some are easier than others. I go to pains to make sure if I phone one I contact the others. I know they’re still watching!!!!😂
Great article Cara. My book Why First Borns Rile the World and Last Borns Want to Change It tackles this parenting perennial from a birth order perspective (which you do mention). Favouritism happens for many reasons. We’re human. Parenting is a two way interaction. I love your use of research and your detail. Really useful for parents and professionals. Many thanks!🙏
Great article! I learned a lot. Would love to hear from other parents: how do you talk about fairness in your family? Thinking about ways to build that “shared understanding of what fair treatment looks like.”
this is a hard topic! We have a neurotypical child who is much easier to deal with on a day to day basis. I'm sure he resents how much extra time/energy we have to spend on his ADHD brother, who I know thinks that he is not favored because he is 'in trouble' more. I suppose I deal with it by not overthinking it and not pretending that there aren't differences.
On a personal perspective my kids are all grown up and give me feedback about my parenting. They tell me who the favourite and least favourite are. They’re right!!! Hasn’t changed much either as adults. Some are easier than others. I go to pains to make sure if I phone one I contact the others. I know they’re still watching!!!!😂
Great article Cara. My book Why First Borns Rile the World and Last Borns Want to Change It tackles this parenting perennial from a birth order perspective (which you do mention). Favouritism happens for many reasons. We’re human. Parenting is a two way interaction. I love your use of research and your detail. Really useful for parents and professionals. Many thanks!🙏
Great article! I learned a lot. Would love to hear from other parents: how do you talk about fairness in your family? Thinking about ways to build that “shared understanding of what fair treatment looks like.”
this is a hard topic! We have a neurotypical child who is much easier to deal with on a day to day basis. I'm sure he resents how much extra time/energy we have to spend on his ADHD brother, who I know thinks that he is not favored because he is 'in trouble' more. I suppose I deal with it by not overthinking it and not pretending that there aren't differences.