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Dec 13, 2023·edited Dec 13, 2023Liked by Dr. Cara Goodwin, PhD

Big fan of this idea. Children are their own entity with their own personality. Understanding that makes everything easier. Too many parents and teachers expect children to react in a certain way to a certain stimulus, and try to force square pegs in round holes (often with medication these days) when they don't.

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Thank you so much for sharing this. Children are square, triangle, star and rectangle pegs trying to fit into round holes! I love this concept.

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Dec 13, 2023Liked by Dr. Cara Goodwin, PhD

Thank you so much for this excellent interview! I can’t wait to get my hands on this book.

I think what I loved the most about this approach is it’s longevity. It is an approach you can take not only for your toddler and teen but also an adult child. It’s such a great way to build that parenting habit/skill while your kids are still young and it can last you a lifetime. This was a wonderful read and I learned so much!

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Sri, I agree. I love parenting strategies that can grow with the child and the parent. I see that in Dr. Emily's work!

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Dec 13, 2023Liked by Dr. Cara Goodwin, PhD

I am curious to read Dr. Emily's book. Her suggestions are very aligned with the work of Ned Johnson and Dr. William Stixrud who wrote, "The Self-Driven Child" and teach the parent as coach/consultant model.

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That is a great comparison. You will definitely love the book!

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Dec 13, 2023Liked by Dr. Cara Goodwin, PhD

I love the theory and strategies that Dr. Emily shared in this interview. They are particularly with teenagers!

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I am so glad you found the interview helpful. I love her approach and think it is great for all ages but I agree it will definitely be helpful during the teenage years.

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We are big fans of this approach in my house. Whether the more-controlling adults in our lives who have to interact with our very independent child are big fans or not... remains an open question! And maybe that is addressed in the book, in terms of helping our autonomous children self-advocate or just survive in more structured environments, or among old-fashioned relatives?

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Love this! I especially loved the point about how a little bit of stress is good! I feel like that is something parents might easily forget, or might look away from since it also might stress them out a bit in turn.

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