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Eileen Kennedy-Moore, PhD's avatar

Congratulations! I love, love, love being a mom of four! My kids are adults now, and it warms my heart to see their deep friendships with each other. Once you have more than one kid, there's a certain amount of chaos that you just need to embrace.

I think it was good for my kids that they grew up without all of the intensity of my attention focused exclusively on them.

One time, my oldest and I were looking online at dresses for an event she had. I said, "Oh, that one's pretty!"

She said, "No, it looks like a fairy princess dress."

I said, "I know. That's what I like about it."

She turned around and looked at me and said, "Better luck with the next kid!"

I laughed so hard!!! She knew exactly what I thought but felt absolutely free to go with what she wanted. How wonderful!

Each person needs to decide what's right for their family. Having two kids can invite comparisons and rivalry. Having three kids often means one tends to be left out. Four kids are expensive for parents (that's the big downside!), but, I think, ideal for kids. There's always someone to play with but the group is small enough no one gets lost.

The best reason for having (another) kid is to be able to fall in love (again) in that wonderful way.

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Brad Kelley's avatar

Massive congratulations to you and your family!

You hit the nail on the head in your closing comments as well: whatever number you wanted it to say is the ideal number for you!

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