Some kids (and adults) collect grievances like beads on a string. Not helpful. In my book Growing Friendships, I talk about forgiveness guidelines, including:
- If it only happened once, and it's unlikely to happen again, let it go.
- If it wasn't that big of a deal, let it go.
- If it was an accident, or the person is genuinely sorry, let it go.
- If it happened more than a month ago, DEFINITELY let it go!
Will be working on this until the end. For me, the deep, primitive wounds of childhood trauma, have been hard to fully heal and forgive as they keep messing with me. Perhaps because we now know our brains are literally rewired badly due to trauma, (complex PTSD) and it makes it more of an uphill battle. The gift of generational trauma keeps on giving. What a brilliant thing to do to model and teach kids forgiveness early on. Hopefully in my next life!
It is so difficult to let it go but I agree that is is important to do!!
Some kids (and adults) collect grievances like beads on a string. Not helpful. In my book Growing Friendships, I talk about forgiveness guidelines, including:
- If it only happened once, and it's unlikely to happen again, let it go.
- If it wasn't that big of a deal, let it go.
- If it was an accident, or the person is genuinely sorry, let it go.
- If it happened more than a month ago, DEFINITELY let it go!
This was so insightful! Learned a lot of new things. It’s inspired me to write a post on it. Thank you for sharing!
Will be working on this until the end. For me, the deep, primitive wounds of childhood trauma, have been hard to fully heal and forgive as they keep messing with me. Perhaps because we now know our brains are literally rewired badly due to trauma, (complex PTSD) and it makes it more of an uphill battle. The gift of generational trauma keeps on giving. What a brilliant thing to do to model and teach kids forgiveness early on. Hopefully in my next life!