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A friend that recently became a father was telling me how he couldn’t wait to decorate the crib with stuffed animals. Thank you for this, such perfect timing! I will make sure to send it to him right away.

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Hooray for research studying fathers! This reminds me of when I wrote a “list of things dads can do” in my first week postpartum, in a fit of pique, because my husband had been told over and over again by Gen X/Boomer dads that there’s “not much to do” for dads in the early newborn days, and this seemed patently ridiculous, if not totally irresponsible, when we were actually thrust into things like dealing with breastfeeding and baby sleep. My husband’s involvement was a critical factor in both. We now share the list we made with all new parent friends.

This also makes me wonder how narratives about this time become self-fulfilling prophecies if dads aren’t using their critical thinking skills to examine these “not much to do” claims vis a vis the evidence. It also makes me think about the research in my education world about self-efficacy vs learned helplessness. People who believe they can and should learn to be good at something, and who are affirmed in this by trusted mentors, usually end up doing that. People who don’t believe they can or should be good at it… aren’t. I’d be curious to know what research exists on self efficacy in dads regarding care tasks vis a vis their involvement in those tasks, and the outcomes for mothers and kids regarding all of that.

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