Hey Sara, just putting myself out there. Can I ask you a favor? I’m a new substacker trying to build my community. I write about working from home, being a SAHM and how I save my family money. I’m trying to get my first 100 subscribers today, would you join in?
I especially like your constructive approach of providing options, acknowledging that there's always some trial and error, and recognizing that different kids are different. Too much parenting advice has the unhelpful and unkind message "If you ever do X, your kid will be damaged for life!" Sigh.
Thanks for providing this clear set of sensible recommendations for parents. It's no mistake that many well-studied behavior management programs for parent (and for teachers) include very many of these. It's too bad that so much of the attention in the media goes to faddish techniques that are based on intuition rather than evidence.
Thanks so much for this, I second all the other comments - it’s such a helpful summary and I’d love to hear more! It was reassuring and a good refresher to read about the strategies I’m already using routinely (some have taken a fair bit of practice and trial and error!), and then the idea of behavioural momentum is completely new to me so now I’ve got something concrete (and evidence based!) I can go and try today. Thanks!
Hey Louise, just putting myself out there. Can I ask you a favor? I’m a new substacker trying to build my community. I write about working from home, being a SAHM and how I save my family money. I’m trying to get my first 100 subscribers today, would you join in?
Excellent summary of pro-active steps parents can take. As parents, we all screw up; knowing alternative strategies to support a child's behavior is essential.
Thank you, Cara. This was such a clear and informative summary with helpful insights, and arrived at a perfect time for us, with a bright, boundary testing three-year-old. Would love to read a further instalment with more research-backed discipline strategies from this paper … if you have time to write it! Your posts are super helpful.
Hey Chrissie, just putting myself out there. Can I ask you a favor? I’m a new substacker trying to build my community. I write about working from home, being a SAHM and how I save my family money. I’m trying to get my first 100 subscribers today, would you join in?
Agreed with the other commenters, this is a fantastic article. Thank you! (I have spirited 2.5 yo twins, and find your articles so helpful!) I would be interested in reading about more research-backed approaches to discipline.
I appreciated this article on discipline and the helpful tips you've provided to parents with practical examples to show what strategies look like in real life. I find that people hunger for the practical how-to's that really do work. I have no idea where the concept of automatic knowledge of parenting skills based on the fact that you gave birth originated. Your presentation of these strategies was spot on and align with my own experiences in classroom settings, too. Classroom management involves pretty much the same tactics. :) I'm also interested in your take on the research regarding the effects of screen time on brain development in children. From my observations over the last several years in lower primary classrooms, there does appear to be a definite correllation in developmental growth and the amount of exposure to screens (TV, videos, computer games, etc). I know it's very challenging for parents to limit screen time in this technical age, so I came up with what I hope will be a helpful solution. I officially launched my own substack, Storybook Hut, in December. Storybook Hut is a library of audio picture books that have static images of each page rather than animation. As I read aloud each story, I allow time for the children to absorb the pictures and use their imagination as they would if looking at a physical copy of the book. It also gives parents, grandparents, or other grown ups the opportunity to mute my voice and read aloud to their little ones without hauling around a bag of books. If you come to the same conclusion that I have and believe this to be helpful to parents, I would be delighted if you reviewed my library service. All the best to you as you continue to help parents navigate the often confusing research and advice flying around. Blessings, Angie
This!! I have always been so frustrated by the lack of concrete advice on what TO do and HOW to do it as compared to everything about what NOT to do. More please!
Hey Wesley, just putting myself out there. Can I ask you a favor? I’m a new substacker trying to build my community. I write about working from home, being a SAHM and how I save my family money. I’m trying to get my first 100 subscribers today, would you join in?
I'd love to hear more about the strategies that work. However, I think it's also helpful to learn about the strategies that don't work in case I need to course correct.
Cool never thought of behavioral momentum before. What has worked for me recently (2, 4, 4) is “joining their world” before asking them to leave it / do something they don’t want to do. “Wow! Look at that tower. Tell me about it. Who lives there? Very cool. Let’s put the last three blocks on and go brush our teeth.”
This was such a helpful newsletter (honestly, all of yours are!). Would love any follow up, including more strategies that do/don't work with examples like you had here.
Also just wanted to say thank you for always providing such helpful, evidence-based newsletters and resources on your IG for free! Really helpful as a parent and also just so nice to see in a sea of misinformation on the internet
I would appreciate a summary of some more of the strategies! Thanks for this 😊
Happy to do it! Just wanted to make sure there was interest!
Hey Sara, just putting myself out there. Can I ask you a favor? I’m a new substacker trying to build my community. I write about working from home, being a SAHM and how I save my family money. I’m trying to get my first 100 subscribers today, would you join in?
Fantastic article! Thoughtful, respectful, practical! :)
I especially like your constructive approach of providing options, acknowledging that there's always some trial and error, and recognizing that different kids are different. Too much parenting advice has the unhelpful and unkind message "If you ever do X, your kid will be damaged for life!" Sigh.
Thanks for providing this clear set of sensible recommendations for parents. It's no mistake that many well-studied behavior management programs for parent (and for teachers) include very many of these. It's too bad that so much of the attention in the media goes to faddish techniques that are based on intuition rather than evidence.
I agree! These are tried and true strategies!
Agreed!
Thanks so much for this, I second all the other comments - it’s such a helpful summary and I’d love to hear more! It was reassuring and a good refresher to read about the strategies I’m already using routinely (some have taken a fair bit of practice and trial and error!), and then the idea of behavioural momentum is completely new to me so now I’ve got something concrete (and evidence based!) I can go and try today. Thanks!
Hey Louise, just putting myself out there. Can I ask you a favor? I’m a new substacker trying to build my community. I write about working from home, being a SAHM and how I save my family money. I’m trying to get my first 100 subscribers today, would you join in?
Excellent summary of pro-active steps parents can take. As parents, we all screw up; knowing alternative strategies to support a child's behavior is essential.
Thank you, Cara. This was such a clear and informative summary with helpful insights, and arrived at a perfect time for us, with a bright, boundary testing three-year-old. Would love to read a further instalment with more research-backed discipline strategies from this paper … if you have time to write it! Your posts are super helpful.
Hey Chrissie, just putting myself out there. Can I ask you a favor? I’m a new substacker trying to build my community. I write about working from home, being a SAHM and how I save my family money. I’m trying to get my first 100 subscribers today, would you join in?
Agreed with the other commenters, this is a fantastic article. Thank you! (I have spirited 2.5 yo twins, and find your articles so helpful!) I would be interested in reading about more research-backed approaches to discipline.
This was great! I would like to hear more about strategies that work, and if certain ones were shown to be most effective.
I would also like to know if there are any studies that specifically looked at effective discipline and autism and/or ADHD. Thanks for all you do!
I would love to hear more about the other strategies that work, thank you!
I appreciated this article on discipline and the helpful tips you've provided to parents with practical examples to show what strategies look like in real life. I find that people hunger for the practical how-to's that really do work. I have no idea where the concept of automatic knowledge of parenting skills based on the fact that you gave birth originated. Your presentation of these strategies was spot on and align with my own experiences in classroom settings, too. Classroom management involves pretty much the same tactics. :) I'm also interested in your take on the research regarding the effects of screen time on brain development in children. From my observations over the last several years in lower primary classrooms, there does appear to be a definite correllation in developmental growth and the amount of exposure to screens (TV, videos, computer games, etc). I know it's very challenging for parents to limit screen time in this technical age, so I came up with what I hope will be a helpful solution. I officially launched my own substack, Storybook Hut, in December. Storybook Hut is a library of audio picture books that have static images of each page rather than animation. As I read aloud each story, I allow time for the children to absorb the pictures and use their imagination as they would if looking at a physical copy of the book. It also gives parents, grandparents, or other grown ups the opportunity to mute my voice and read aloud to their little ones without hauling around a bag of books. If you come to the same conclusion that I have and believe this to be helpful to parents, I would be delighted if you reviewed my library service. All the best to you as you continue to help parents navigate the often confusing research and advice flying around. Blessings, Angie
Finally some balanced, non-faddy parenting content. Love the approach, keep it going
This!! I have always been so frustrated by the lack of concrete advice on what TO do and HOW to do it as compared to everything about what NOT to do. More please!
Hey Wesley, just putting myself out there. Can I ask you a favor? I’m a new substacker trying to build my community. I write about working from home, being a SAHM and how I save my family money. I’m trying to get my first 100 subscribers today, would you join in?
I'd love to hear more about the strategies that work. However, I think it's also helpful to learn about the strategies that don't work in case I need to course correct.
Cool never thought of behavioral momentum before. What has worked for me recently (2, 4, 4) is “joining their world” before asking them to leave it / do something they don’t want to do. “Wow! Look at that tower. Tell me about it. Who lives there? Very cool. Let’s put the last three blocks on and go brush our teeth.”
This was such a helpful newsletter (honestly, all of yours are!). Would love any follow up, including more strategies that do/don't work with examples like you had here.
Also just wanted to say thank you for always providing such helpful, evidence-based newsletters and resources on your IG for free! Really helpful as a parent and also just so nice to see in a sea of misinformation on the internet
Great advice, excellent article.