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I would appreciate a summary of some more of the strategies! Thanks for this 😊

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Happy to do it! Just wanted to make sure there was interest!

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Thanks for providing this clear set of sensible recommendations for parents. It's no mistake that many well-studied behavior management programs for parent (and for teachers) include very many of these. It's too bad that so much of the attention in the media goes to faddish techniques that are based on intuition rather than evidence.

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I agree! These are tried and true strategies!

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Agreed!

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Fantastic article! Thoughtful, respectful, practical! :)

I especially like your constructive approach of providing options, acknowledging that there's always some trial and error, and recognizing that different kids are different. Too much parenting advice has the unhelpful and unkind message "If you ever do X, your kid will be damaged for life!" Sigh.

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Thanks so much for this, I second all the other comments - it’s such a helpful summary and I’d love to hear more! It was reassuring and a good refresher to read about the strategies I’m already using routinely (some have taken a fair bit of practice and trial and error!), and then the idea of behavioural momentum is completely new to me so now I’ve got something concrete (and evidence based!) I can go and try today. Thanks!

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Excellent summary of pro-active steps parents can take. As parents, we all screw up; knowing alternative strategies to support a child's behavior is essential.

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Thank you, Cara. This was such a clear and informative summary with helpful insights, and arrived at a perfect time for us, with a bright, boundary testing three-year-old. Would love to read a further instalment with more research-backed discipline strategies from this paper … if you have time to write it! Your posts are super helpful.

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Agreed with the other commenters, this is a fantastic article. Thank you! (I have spirited 2.5 yo twins, and find your articles so helpful!) I would be interested in reading about more research-backed approaches to discipline.

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This was great! I would like to hear more about strategies that work, and if certain ones were shown to be most effective.

I would also like to know if there are any studies that specifically looked at effective discipline and autism and/or ADHD. Thanks for all you do!

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This was such a helpful newsletter (honestly, all of yours are!). Would love any follow up, including more strategies that do/don't work with examples like you had here.

Also just wanted to say thank you for always providing such helpful, evidence-based newsletters and resources on your IG for free! Really helpful as a parent and also just so nice to see in a sea of misinformation on the internet

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Great advice, excellent article.

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This was awesome. Learned some

New strategies and validated some existing ones we use. Was hoping to learn more about time-ins/outs, but maybe these are the best options? Would be interested to learn about the other strategies!

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Watch a few episodes of Supernanny on Amazon Prime. There’s usually time outs implemented in every episode. She goes over guidelines and you get to watch real mistakes/corrections with each kid. Usually it’s the parent doing it wrong.

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Both please!

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