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May be the basic idea is to call a spade a spade.

And not try to put it too rose when the first thing to acknowledge is that something was not as expected.

Learning how to cope with difficulties? Could be.

May be for a child to feel (for a little while) that something went wrong is a way to appreciate when it goes well.

But yeah, words are easy. The difficult part is being there as a parent.

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I was hoping you could clarify this sentence:

"Don’t immediately fix problems or reassure them that everything will be “okay” if something goes wrong."

The way I read it I hear "Don’t immediately fix problems or *don't* reassure them that everything will be “okay” if something goes wrong."

Is that correct? That part of not fixing the problem is also not saying it's going to be okay if they mess up?

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